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In this episode of The Well-Tended Life podcast, I sit down with trauma-informed therapist and founder of The Collective Therapy & Wellness, Alyssa Scarano. Together, we explore one of the most transformative truths of tending your life: when you heal yourself, you expand your capacity to heal the world around you.
Alyssa shares how her own story—through art, writing, therapy, motherhood, and advocacy—shaped the way she views emotions not as problems to fix, but as signals to listen to. She offers powerful analogies (think Spidey senses and dashboard warning lights) that help us see our feelings as guides toward boundaries, needs, and deeper self-connection.
We also talk about emotional regulation (for us and our kids), the difference between thoughts and feelings, how social media keeps us distracted and disconnected, and why it’s time to retire the “good girl” and start using our true voice. Alyssa also opens up about parenting a neurodivergent child, broken systems, and the courage it takes to keep advocating while still choosing ease and joy where she can.
💛 Here are a few heart taps from this episode:
1️⃣ Your emotions aren’t inconveniences—they’re information.
2️⃣ Big feelings need calm, not correction.
3️⃣ You always have a choice in how you respond.
4️⃣ Boundaries are an act of self-love and self-preservation.
5️⃣ Healing your inner child changes how you show up for others.
If your heart needs permission to feel, breathe, and come back home to yourself, this conversation will meet you right where you are.